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Jan. 25th, 2012

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Poly rules or not rules advice

BJJ and Yoga, timely!

Dear small child,

Whimpering because I said "breakfast, clothes, and hair brushing FIRST before new toy" is not getting any sympathy from me. NONE. I didn't break your fingers so wailing and kvetching isn't appropriate. Cut. It. Out!

love Mom

I'm driving myself crazy trying to remember the something I was supposed to do this morning. Since I don't have a life (outside of the SCA) I probably don't have anything planned, just the idea that I could have had something planned.

SO.... it is like $200 to get a dishwasher fixed, and about $400 for a new one. We will probably get a new one today. Or, like the TV, some point in the near future. Dishes will pile up, video games aren't nearly as insistent.


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Jan. 26th, 2012 03:44 am (UTC)
Very good article,I like the "rules" vs "boundaries part.
Jan. 26th, 2012 04:25 pm (UTC)
The rules vs boundaries is very thought-provoking, and isn't limited to poly folk.

The 'rules' in an 'ordinary' relationship can include things like, don't go boozing with your mates because you turn into a jerk after two drinks, or, I'm never staying with your parents for more than one night, ever again.

They protect you socially, and are easy to discuss in public. They do provide some 'cover' for personal problems; it's maybe easier to simply avoid visits with inlaws than deal with your personal differences.

Rules are much more familiar: they are externally based, and often publicly known. Effectively, marriage vows act as rules (for a given value of 'rule').

Talking about boundaries is a very modern, internally-aware, post-Freud thing; I think in the past, people would have just said, 'it takes self-discipline and good manners to retain friendships/relationhips without screwing them up'.

The comments seemed to be broadsided by someone with a chip.

Really like the stretch too. I always feel my IT and outer hip muscles are tight.
Jan. 28th, 2012 04:32 pm (UTC)
this is all true
Jan. 28th, 2012 04:29 pm (UTC)
it is a sad commentary on our world that it costs so much to repaire something in comparision to just buying a new one. That being said depending upon the quality of the new dishwasher, it may be a lot quieter and use less energy and water and thus cost less money per load of dishes than the current one. I a bought a Bosch dishwasher about a year back and it is much quieter than the one that came with the house.
Jan. 28th, 2012 04:32 pm (UTC)
It is so quiet I didn't know it was on!!!1
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